Mike MacIntyre needed some perspective Saturday night in the immediate aftermath of Colorado's loss to Arizona on the football field.
MacIntyre was emotional and angry that his team made too many mistakes and found ways to lose what was a winnable game for nearly three quarters. He let those emotions show by being quick-tempered and cranky with reporters in both his postgame press conference and radio interview.
It wasn't his finest moment but it also wasn't unusual for men in his profession who spend far too many hours away from family and the rest of life each week in the fall trying to win football games.
MacIntyre began his weekly press conference Tuesday at Folsom Field by explaining how and when he found the proper perspective for the frustrating loss.
It came in the familiar face of his brother-in-law, who lost his sister to cancer four years ago. MacIntyre said when he saw his brother-in-law standing in the Dal Ward Center waiting for him and his family while wearing a pink shirt in honor of breast cancer awareness, he realized he probably wasn't handling the loss as well as he could be.
He found it in the faces of others he saw outside the stadium wearing pink shirts. He found it in the voices of friends who called to say how much they appreciated his team wearing pink accents with black uniforms to champion the fight against cancer.
He found it in church Sunday morning.
"All of a sudden I said, 'Wow,'" MacIntyre said. "You know you can get frustrated but you've got to realize really what's important in life. And definitely a football game is important to us. There's no doubt about it, but you have to put everything in perspective, and it pretty much put it in perspective."
The epiphany continued into Monday morning when he learned one CU player had lost his grandfather over the weekend and needed to be excused for a funeral later this week. A CU staffer in the football offices has a family member whose cancer has returned.
"Bang after bang," MacIntyre said. "It just puts everything in perspective.
"It made me realize that we do what we do as hard as we can, but the thing is it's the relationships that we build every day with these young people, with the people we work with and if we just keep being positive, keep pushing, keep keeping the right perspective and not let our emotions take control sometimes, everything will work out and we'll be successful."
MacIntyre and his team got back to work Tuesday morning without wide receiver Paul Richardson, who is nursing a sore ankle. MacIntyre said Richardson reported feeling better Tuesday and he is hopeful of having his star receiver when the Buffs travel to Pasadena, Calif., on Saturday to play UCLA (5-2, 2-2) at the Rose Bowl.
"He's a skinny little guy," MacIntyre said. "So a little ankle does hurt him a little bit. I know he wants to play Saturday at UCLA in the Rose Bowl back at home. So hopefully he'll be able to go because we definitely need him."
Richardson has accounted for 38 percent of the Buffs' total offense and seven of the offense's 19 total touchdowns through the first seven games this season.
The Buffs (3-4, 0-4) will be trying to snap a 12-game losing streak in Pac-12 Conference games and earn their first victory in the state of California since the school joined the Pac-12 prior to the 2011 season.
All four of the Buffs' losses in conference play this season have come by 24 or more points and 15 of the program's 22 games since joining the conference have ended in losses of 25 or more points.
MacIntyre said after starting so poorly in the conference -- albeit against some of the best teams in the league -- he doesn't believe the rebuilding job he is undertaking at CU is any bigger than he initially believed when he was hired in December.
MacIntyre said it's a challenge to be patient while rebuilding, but it's about persevering and staying focused on the job. He said he hasn't seen any signs of his team's commitment drifting or fracturing in the ranks.
"I really think we're a together team, and I really think they're trying hard and playing hard," MacIntyre said. "We've just got to play a little better. We've got to do a few more things.
"I know that sounds simplistic, but I don't see factions, I don't see people pointing fingers at each other, I don't see guys not coming to work, I don't see guys not going to class. I see them all doing the things that you see a good football team maturing doing. Now, it takes a process to get it done against good teams."